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When do Mormons do soaking?

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When do Mormons do soaking?

“Soaking” is a term associated with certain practices within some segments of the Mormon community, particularly among younger members. It refers to a form of sexual activity where a couple engages in intercourse without thrusting, often seen as a way to avoid what some may consider sinful behavior while still experiencing intimacy.

This practice is not officially condoned by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS Church) and does not reflect the beliefs or practices of the majority of Mormons. Generally, the church teaches its members to adhere to strict guidelines regarding sexual behavior, emphasizing chastity before marriage.

I’m 61 years old and been active in the LDS church for my entire life. I’ve taught the Gospel to every age group amd I’ve never heard of this soaking until literally six minutes or so ago when I read your question.

The website where you can read about actual Mormon stuff (as opposed to the whacked out garbage that anti-Mormons say about us) is ChurchofJesusChrist.org. (or just LDS.org). We teach each other from the materials on that website and I encourage all of you reading this to throw the hater pamphlets in the trash and direct your attention the official website of the church.

Many of our beliefs aren’t mainstream Christian as it is. We don’t need a bunch of yahoos running around making weird stuff up.

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When do Mormons do soaking?

Well, I thought I had heard/read every nonsensical thing ever written about the Church and its members. I was wrong. I’m 78 years old, member for more than 54 years and I had never heard anything like that, in any discussion—even among radical non-members—ever. Ever! In any event, don’t lose any sleep over stuff like this. I take comfort in knowing that every single one of us will someday stand before the Savior to give an account of our lives. Those who latch onto silly stuff like this and pass it around as if it were true may have an interesting interview.

I have never ever heard of this practice until I saw a comedian make reference to it during some comedy routine. I looked it up and was astounded anyone thought this is an actual practice engaged in by the saints. It doesn’t even make any sense for them to do it.

“Soaking” is supposedly a practice engaged in by young Latter-day Saints to circumvent the laws of chastity. They could engage in sexual activity without actually having sex. Except, the very act of soaking, provided it was real, would still be a violation of the Lord’s law of sexual morality.

To answer the question directly, never.

“Soaking” is one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard and I can’t believe that anyone believes it occurs. If there was ever a man (young or not) who became so sexually aroused that he had an erection and placed his penis inside a female’s vagina there is absolutely no way on god’s green earth that he’s not moving.

There’s no strength of will power or restraint that any man could exercise not to move and just lay there. When a man gets to the point of penetrating a female, he’s going to go for the gold—-especially if he’s fairly young. Even dumb LDS couples know how to lie to their branch president or bishop, and he doesn’t want to hear your sexual escapades anyway.

Only a true nimrod would go into a bishop and voluntarily confess a sexual transgreation because it was simply “wrong”. I’ll admit though that the ideas of “soaking” and “jumping-humping” are pretty darn funny though.

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In the Mormon religion, what is “soaking”?

Well:

  • There is no “the Mormon religion”.
  • In The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, the term “soaking” has no doctrinal or even cultural significance.
  • I have only heard the term “soaking” used in this context by those antagonistic to the Church. It is seemingly a term that they invented but now pretend that we invented.
  • In this context, “soaking” refers to a sexual act in which the male penetrates the female but then simply stays still, without repeated motions. Antagonists like to talk about this term as if it were a commonly recognizable part of our doctrine or culture, but it is not. They made it up. The vast majority of members have never used this term in this way and do not even recognize the concept. This is not something that members of the Church are told to do in any context.
  • When do Mormons do soaking?
  • Here we have an antagonist who talks about this idea as if it were a common practice in the Church, but no one in the Church, young or old, ever seems to have any idea of such things. It was completely invented by antagonists. It is the ultimate example of a strawman argument. “You believe this!” No, actually, we do not. “You do this!” No, actually, we do not.

When do Mormons do soaking?

Latter-day Saints should refrain from doing it. Soaking itself is a sexual practice reportedly or allegedly used by members of the Church as purported loophole on the Church’s ban on premarital sex.

According to my knowledge, Latter-day Saints should never engage in such activities. If any member of the Church engage in such abominable activities, they must speedily repent, for they have broken the law of chastity.

We have been taught that the law of chastity encompasses more than sexual intercourse. The First Presidency warned young people of other sexual sins:

“Before marriage, do not do anything to arouse the powerful emotions that must be expressed only in marriage. Do not participate in passionate kissing, lie on top of another person, or touch the private, sacred parts of another person’s body, with or without clothing. Do not allow anyone to do that with you. Do not arouse those emotions in your own body” (For the Strength of Youth [pamphlet, 2001], 27).

I will not expound further, for this will suffice. Let anyone who reads this understand how grevious is the sin of breaking the law of chastity. And let this be a warning to those who intend to engage in such disgusting acts, that the words of the Lord is made plain and simple, you should know deep down that this is wrong, so restrain yourself and do not break the commandment or sin against God, for otherwise, you have succumbed yourself to the temptations of the devil.

Conclusion

As a married member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day saints, we have been married for 16 years. I have never heard of this. And I grew up in the church. Never came up, never been mentioned, never once did anyone describe anything like that. Stop with the spreading of rumors from unreliable sources. It only shows lack of intellectual thought by those who spread it.

When do members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints do “soaking,” a urban legend sexual practice allegedly done by theoretically faithful Saints who want to get around the Law of Chastity?

I don’t think that any Latter-day Saints do. There might be a few that give it a try, just because they’ve heard about it on the Internet, but this really doesn’t pass the giggle test.

Interestingly, every article I’ve read about it online cites former Saints as sources. Not bishops, not devout members, but people who’ve left – and somehow, they haven’t tried it; they just heard about other people doing it.

You know, breaking the Law of Chastity isn’t hard. Far too many Latter-day Saints have done it. That’s why we have confession and repentance.

My suspicion is that any Latter-day Saint who might be interested in “soaking” wouldn’t be satisfied with a half-assed attempt to avoid breaking the Law of Chastity (which, BTW, if “soaking” was a thing, it would easily count as breaking the Law of Chastity) and would simply go ahead with having sex the normal way.

But this sort of narrative is yet another attempt to paint the Saints as not merely Other, but also as stupid, naive, and gullible – just the sort of people who would be taken in by a silly religion.

But you know who is really gullible?

The people who think that “soaking” is a common Latter-day Saint practice – and those who want to titillate themselves with sordid and unfounded rumours.

The Saints know the truth – and where the line lies. I’ll leave you with this exchange between Mike Wallace of 60 Minutes and President Gordon B. Hinckley when he was the prophet:

[Wallace] Next question: “Some of the students we’ve talked to say that the health code is easy compared to no premarital sex. … They say that not smoking or not drinking is a clear line but that the sexual line is somewhere … [well] they are confused, some of them anyway, about where that line is.”

[Gordon B] Response: “Oh, I think they know. Any young man or woman who has grown up in this Church knows where that line is. When you see yourself slipping, begin to exercise some self-discipline. And if it is a serious problem, take it to the Lord. Talk with God about it. Share your burden with Him. He will give you strength. He will help you. They know that. I am confident they know that.”

Conclusion

Soaking is a sexual practice of inserting the p*enis into the v*agina but not subsequently thrusting or ejaculating, reportedly used by some members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS Church).[5] News sources do not report it being a common practice, and some Latter-day Saints have said that soaking is an urban legend and not an actual practice.[1][6] Others report knowing church members who had soaked.[10]

When do Mormons do soaking?